Sex + Love Advice

Ask Slutever

April 11, 2013

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Is it wrong to tell the person you’re dating that you wouldn’t mind if they gained a little weight?  I’ve been seeing a girl who is beautiful and very sweet, but I’ve always had a thing for girls who are a little curvier. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with her–in fact, she’s damn near perfect–but if she happened to want to not worry about her weight so much and gain a few pounds by eating some delicious meals, we could both be happy, right?  Is that so wrong?  Chevy

Why don’t you say to her: “I see you’re drinking 1%. Is that because you think you’re fat? ‘Cause you’re not. You could be drinking whole if you wanted to.” And if she says, “What are you talking about, I’m not drinking milk right now,” you can just laugh and say, “I know baby, I was only making a joke. Oh and by the way I like fat chicks.”

Girls don’t like to be advised on issues of weight. We like to be told that we look perfect and then for you to walk away. However, there are ways that you can achieve your goal discretely, using tactics such as subliminal messaging and deception. For example: Remember that book The Sneaky Chef that became famous a while back? It was basically a how-to guide for mothers on how to trick their children into eating vegetables. The gist of the book was that you can just hide veggies inside other, more tasty foods—“hide a lump of spinach inside a meatball!”, etc. Genius. Well, you can use this method too, except instead of hiding veggies you can hide lard. Peel a banana, take the banana out, fill the skin with sour cream, sew it back up CAREFULLY. She’ll never know. Hide a slab of animal fat underneath a pile of kale. Or, you could eat a McDonalds hamburger immediately before seeing her and then kiss her with your lips covered in a layer of grease lipgloss–that should give her at least 20 calories.

Casually tell your girlfriend that Real Women Have Curves is your favorite movie. Tell her you preferred Jessica Simpson in her 2009/2010 phase, and that before that she looked “like a man.” Or, alternatively, you could wait until you two have been dating long enough that you have an understanding of her prides and insecurities, and if you feel like it wouldn’t hurt her to say “I love your body so much that I wouldn’t mind there being even more of it,” then I say go for it. It will probs just make her feel skinny. (We love that.)

My date spunked on my stomach and I woke up with this baffling scabby thing where the cum was. Do you think it’s more likely that the shirt I was wearing stuck to his cum and bonded to my skin, later resulting in it (my precious human skin) being torn off, OR that this dude has acidic demon semen? Thanks, Jessa

Were you having sex with a human or a bull? Bulls have an acidic protein in their spunk, so if you were fucking a bull (no judgments here, we went to liberal art schools!) then it would make sense why his seminal fluid might have marked your skin. If you were having sex with a human, well, how the fuck am I supposed to know? Maybe a piece of cigarette ash dropped on your skin while you were blacked-out in the same place that the jizz was. Whatever, who cares. I doubt the guy is a demon. You don’t live inside an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

My boyfriend has never been interested in having sex while I’m on my period. I never really broached the subject with him until recently, since most of the time I feel like a mess while menstruating anyway. However, I will be having my period during my birthday this year and don’t want to miss out on getting some action just because my bf is grossed out by a little uterine lining. He literally said, “It’s just not right.” Like, what?! It’s 2013 for Christ’s sake. I know your thoughts on the matter and I was wondering if you have any ideas on how to convince my nun of a boyfriend to get a clue. Sincerely, Red Haze

As Katy Perry once advised me on the issue of period sex at the Chateau Marmont hotel in LA: “Put a towel down, put a towel down, put a towel down.” The moral of the story is, put a towel down. The other moral is if Katy Perry has sex on her period then so should we, because she’s famous and famous people are better and more knowledgeable than us normals on matters of literally everything.

Tell your boyfriend to think of it this way: Having sex on your period is like painting with your vagina. Look down at the towel underneath you post coital and say, “We created this piece of art together,” then put a photo of your conceptual art on Tumblr. A couple that blogs together stays together.

Does your boyfriend not know that blood is nature’s lubricant? Tell your dumb bf that the blood doesn’t actually go inside the pee hole, it just gets on the skin, and that blood is easily removed from skin with water. GOD. Remind him that you drink the gross milky liquid that he stores inside his balls on a regular basis, and that he should just grow the fuck up and deal with it. My ex used to be a wuss about period sex too. He’d always fuck me, but then would make a grossed-out face afterward and whine about having to take a shower. At a point it was like, “Jeez, if it’s such torture to have sex with me then please don’t bother. I’ll gladly roll out onto the sidewalk outside my apartment building naked and wait for a REAL MAN to come along and do the job right.”



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  • Reply Heather April 11, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    Listening to you give advice is like listening to my spirit animal sing sweet, sweet nothings. Except, you know, this is a blog is I’m reading these words of wisdom, which kinda makes that metaphor void. Awkward.

    • Reply s. April 12, 2013 at 11:56 am

      You should have stopped after the first sentence

  • Reply Christie April 11, 2013 at 8:02 pm

    “Tell your boyfriend to think of it this way: Having sex on your period is like painting with your vagina. Look down at the towel underneath you post coital and say, “We created this piece of art together,” then put a photo of your conceptual art on Tumblr. A couple that blogs together stays together.”

    i am dyyyyyying, 2 funny babe!

  • Reply tom April 12, 2013 at 12:51 am

    so funny

  • Reply Oh_hi April 12, 2013 at 2:51 am

    Period blood is not the same as semen u morons

    • Reply Christie April 13, 2013 at 10:28 pm

      do u have like a “grossometer” that gave u this valuable data?????

    • Reply Jessika April 24, 2013 at 3:09 am

      No shit dipstick. The point is if we take your sticky icky on our faces, in our mouths, wash it out of our hair ( and pillows, and walls…) at every one of your orgasms and you can’t take washing some blood off your dick and disposing of a bloody towel every once a month or so then… you should just get a blow up doll. no bodily fluids, no opinion, and best of all- one less woman has to deal with hypocritical sexual double standards.

  • Reply Iman April 12, 2013 at 5:10 am

    She might be allergic to the guy’s cum, duh.

  • Reply Reasoner April 12, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Or skip a step and just have the period sex in the shower.

    • Reply Christie April 13, 2013 at 2:23 pm

      People should just combine all of their sex and shower time. Fun and SO efficient.

  • Reply j April 13, 2013 at 1:32 am

    i feel like the sticklers over at jezebel kicked you off the team, bc this isn’t over at jezebel, and it’s definitely kind of meaner (awesomer). what happened?

    • Reply karleyslutever April 13, 2013 at 3:09 pm

      I think we just have different visions. But I still love them.

      • Reply dv April 14, 2013 at 8:29 am

        I love your vision.

        • Reply jg323 April 16, 2013 at 3:10 pm

          I love your tits.

    • Reply mightzi April 20, 2013 at 5:28 pm


  • Reply Jolene April 13, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    well if i was a guy i wouldn’t fuck my girlfriend during her period, i’m sorry but i understand that guy!

  • Reply peter April 13, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    OK.. Long time reader, first time writer; that was great. ‘Blogs together stays together’, simply joyous.

  • Reply Lala April 16, 2013 at 5:41 am

    Why say anything? I used to have the same problem until one day I omitted that I was on my period. It was awesome and he only found out when in the shower. Just don’t get head, or just let him earn his read wings out of revenge. But believe me most guys would never know unless you tell them. Keep the lights low or candle light. When he realizes it, just say that you just got it and brush it off. No biggie

  • Reply mightzi April 20, 2013 at 5:29 pm

    “except instead of hiding veggies you can hide lard”

    i wish you lived where i lived

    you’re the BEST!

  • Reply FreakyV April 25, 2013 at 5:32 am

    If you used Softcup (Mentrual cup) when your on your period, they guy won’t have a clue. Unless he has a rather large cock banging you hard enough to shove it to the back of your cervix , then you might need a fisting to pull it out. Which when it comes out it will resemble the pail of hogs blood that covered Carrie’s head!

  • Reply MissMandy May 1, 2013 at 12:30 am

    Gotta say, I was never big on having sex during “that time”, mainly because previous partners all acted like it was gross. Current partner reeeeally digs it, and it kinda makes sense.. Apparently, your body temp is ever-so-slightly higher when you’re on your period, and he swears that it’s like a naturally warmed super-lube. Sometimes it takes a little extra work to feel sexy when you’ve got Hiroshima happening in your nether regions, but as someone who normally gets ridiculously horny when she’s on the rag… It all kinda works out!

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