Rants, Feelings & Opinions


December 13, 2012
Pic by Sally Mann

People often ask me, both in interviews and during casual conversation, if I sleep with people for money. Or sometimes they skip the asking part and just assume that I do, or at least that I have. The truth is, I have been paid for sex only once, and it was by accident, and the one time I actually tried to make it happen, I failed.

Back when I was squatting in London, during the much-blogged-about “Squallyoaks” period of my life, I lived for a while with a girl named Lydia whose life’s ambition was to become a whore. I found this very amusing. I was always trying to explain to her that prostitution is rarely a profession one aspires toward, but more often one that is fallen into, likely out of desperation. (I of course understand that this is not always the case–I’m aware of this random thing called feminism–and that many people enjoy making money in exchange for sex, but I’m generalizing.) Still, Lydia, in all of her glorious airheadedness, somehow managed to constantly fail in her attempts to whore herself out. At first, it was clear she was aiming too high on the high-class escort ladder (her daily attire was far more True Romance than Belle de Jour). Other times she’d ask for too much money, or make crazy demands of potential first time clients (“I’ll only fuck on red satin sheets”), or she’d make appointments and then accidentally go into a K-hole and not show up. The list goes on. I constantly made fun of her for this, to her annoyance. However, after my sole attempt to be a hooker turned out to be a disaster, I suddenly felt bad for having been such a snob, and, whatever… unsupportive. “I’m so sorry Lydia,” I wrote on her FB wall in the hours after my failure. “Turns out being a whore is a lot harder than I originally thought. xoxo”

But I’ll start with the story about the time that I was paid for sex, accidentally. I’ve actually already written a detailed post about this, but I’ll paraphrase it for you. It was just a few days after I moved to New York, about two and a half years ago now, and out of a combination of loneliness, horniness, drunkenness and desperation, I put up an ad up on the ‘casual encounters’ section of Craigslist. Out of all of the potential, bottom-of-the-barrel suitors who responded to my ad, the most appealing by far was a 32 year old Hasidic Jew named Isaac who described himself as “tall, slender and clean.” To make a long story short, Isaac came cover, came in my mouth, and then asked, “How much?” Me, being the innocent and sexually naive person that I am, asked, “How much what?” He responded to this with a puzzled glance, then said, “How much money?”

Clearly, he thought I was a prostitute, but I wholeheartedly had not considered this until the moment he said the word “money.” I guess I hadn’t thought about whether or not it would be unusual for 25 year old middle-class white girl to be causally trolling Craigslist at 4am, searching for some honest, no-strings attached sex with a creepy, married, Orthodox stranger. As I hadn’t planned on how much money I would ask for, since I hadn’t planned on asking at all, when the question was raised I panicked and said, “Uh… $50.” After I said it I instantly realized, upon seeing the delight in his eyes, that I should have asked for way more. But whatev, it’s 50 bucks more than I’d ever been paid for sex before.

The time I tried to be a hooker and failed happened about three months before this, while I was living in London. I was sleeping with this older guy, a 45 year old photographer named Elliott. He beat my up and stuff, like sexually. It was cool. I suppose, in hindsight, he was the person who first introduced me to S&M. The sex wasn’t that intense, but there was definitely the occasional ball-gag and nipple clamp involved. What he liked most was to mentally dominate me, and to “punish” me if I ever disobeyed him. Like this one time he invited me over his house, and I showed up 45 minutes late, so he refused to fuck me and instead just tied me to his dresser and jerked-off onto my face. Stuff like that. And he loved making me beg for sex, it was his favorite thing ever. I like it too, although I pretended I didn’t.

So anyway, I was dating Elliott. Or we weren’t really dating, technically, we were just sleeping together. I asked him to be my boyfriend like 500 times but he always said no. But whatever, that’s not the point. The point is, a few months into the relationship he told me that he was going to be my pimp, and pimp me out to all of his friends. He didn’t ask me, he told me. I obliged, because it sounded kind of hot, and because Elliot was really handsome and well dressed and rich–“old money” British family–so I assumed all his friends would be handsome and well dressed and rich too. Score!

I was really excited about my first hooker appointment. Elliott explained how the whole thing would go down to me over the phone: “He’s my old friend, a total gentlemen,” Elliott said. “He has rented you for one hour. Show up to his apartment at 8pm. He can do whatever he wants to you, but no anal.” I said alright, sounds glamorous.

So I showed up, and just as I had hoped, the guy was really good looking. Late thirties, tall, sandy blond hair, total prep school vibes. We talked for about two minutes, during which I made boring conversation, asking him how he knew Elliott, etc., but it was clear that he had no interest in talking, so I gave up and we started making out. Then some other stuff happened, normal foreplay, whatever. Eventually we start fucking, and obviously I wanted to be fucked in the ass, solely because Elliott had told me it was forbidden. So I said, “Elliott said said he doesn’t want me to do anal, but I’m up for it if you are,” and the guy responded, “Since when is this about what Elliot wants?” So that was that.

The sex good, no complaints. I was really into the guy physically. Like if I saw him in a bar, I probably would have flirted. My only complaint was that he was a bit too nice. Like, during sex, if you want to spank someone, you just do it. You don’t ask them first, because by asking you completely negate the effect of the spank. And if you spank someone and he/she doesn’t like it, it’s no big deal, because he/she will just ask you to stop. Ya know? (#LifeAdvice) So yeah, this guy was the sort of guy who would ask before spanking me. A bit too British, in the bad way, if you know what I mean. And then at one point he was fucking me, and I began to dish out some mild dirty talk–“I love the way your dick feels in my ass,” etc., no big deal. And in the midst of this I said, “You think I’m a whore, don’t you?” But like in a sexy-voice, porn way, ya know? But when I said it he immediately stopped, flipped me around, looked me in the eyes and said so sincerely, “No, not at all! I think you’re great!” lol

So the next day I called up Elliot and told him the story, minus the anal part, and he loved it, and told me I did a great job. Then I asked, “So how much do I get?” And he said, “How much what?” and I said, “How much money?” (You see a pattern appearing?) He then, seemingly confused, explained that he never once mentioned money, and that he was sorry if I had assumed otherwise. I then started screaming about how of course I thought there was going to be money involved, since it’s generally implied you will be paid when your pimp sets you up to fuck strangers. “Why on earth would I fuck your friends for free?” I shouted. “Because I told you to,” he responded, calmly, “and you will continue to fuck my friends, whenever I tell you to.” I told him no, I would never do it again, unless I was paid. But of course I did, two more times over the course of the next couple months, for free, because he told me to. God, I can be so weak :)



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  • Reply xo December 13, 2012 at 5:07 am


  • Reply o. December 13, 2012 at 5:23 am

    hahahahah awesome. but yo, you don’t have to explain yourself all the time. like, for the one up-herself-faux-sex-positive-feminist that’s going to be offended by you saying not all hookers are forced into it there are like 20 veteran reader who know what you mean and don’t care to hear the parenthesized justification.

    • Reply Jazz December 13, 2012 at 11:14 am

      I liked that part. So down to earth.

    • Reply Lisa December 29, 2012 at 10:03 am

      I thought the exact same thing! But I guess it was still nice. Or maybe she just didn’t want to get anymore so than usual, haha. Love you Karley, gurlfrand!

      • Reply Lisa December 29, 2012 at 10:07 am

        *hated on anymore so than usual

        derp moment.

  • Reply D December 13, 2012 at 6:05 am

    Slutever, I’m in love with you!

  • Reply ek December 13, 2012 at 6:17 am

    i h8888 when boys ask to spank. it’s a total mood-killer. i adore this blog. thanks, yo .

  • Reply Domenic December 13, 2012 at 8:22 am

    Sometimes I wish you were a guy because I have so many questions to ask you about anal (the giving side)

    What the hell do I do if I am fucking an old hot guy but he is really loose? Do I tell him to tighten the fuck out of his hole while we are fucking? Or is He is just a loose saggy but hole that I can do nothing about that feels like okay but only very slightly okay- I want it to feel amazing.

    Also, what happens if I get loose Slutever? I think gay people are doomed.

    And finally, do females get loose vaginas just like but holes get loose too? Like in the same way? Can they both tighten up too?

    • Reply chantal December 15, 2012 at 1:48 pm

      vagina’s are great, “slutty girls have loose vaginas” is a total myth. even after giving birth, if you’re still pretty young, your pussy will be good as new in less than 6 months. some women are generally born with wider vaginal canals but it’s been that way since they were virgins. losing your virginity hurts because you’re not relaxed, and it’s when you’re relaxed that the pussy widens up a bit to accommodate the d.

      i will say though that i had no clue assholes got loose. sounds really uncomfortable? like how for 5 min after anal it kinda feels like you’re on the verge of shitting because your bhole is all weird and open for a bit? i’ve only had anal sex once and i wish i liked it because i think it’s really hot but it just feels like an endless uncomfortable poop to me

  • Reply Mark December 13, 2012 at 5:37 pm

    Yup, I have a boner now.

  • Reply Larr December 13, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Is that girl in the picture old enough to smoke?

    • Reply kaputtne December 13, 2012 at 6:05 pm

      The picture is called “Candy Cigarette”.

  • Reply Pierre December 13, 2012 at 10:26 pm

    I’m finding it difficult to read Karley’s writing and not masturbate to her words / pictures of her immediately afterwards.

    I’m doing pretty good right now, insofar as I am writing this comment without my penis in my hand.

  • Reply duh December 13, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    there’s a basement under the bottom of the barrel – Michael K

  • Reply chantal December 15, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    “And in the midst of this I said, “You think I’m a whore, don’t you?” But like in a sexy-voice, porn way, ya know? But when I said it he immediately stopped, flipped me around, looked me in the eyes and said so sincerely, “No, not at all! I think you’re great!” lol”

    i just choked on my cereal LMFAO

  • Reply chantal December 15, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    karley i see the people you post in photos at parties all the time but i never see you. what’s up with that? and how annoying is it when some random chick goes up to you saying she reads your ~~~blog~~~?

    • Reply karleyslutever December 15, 2012 at 9:21 pm

      Not annoying, it makes me feel “cool.” :)

  • Reply duende December 16, 2012 at 1:20 am

    % of fact vs. fiction?

  • Reply juan lork December 17, 2012 at 8:44 am

    You are very puta, so that i like you so much because you´re pretty funny. qué putón verbenero eres!!

    • Reply Como February 9, 2013 at 11:07 am

      I’m a Gizmodo reader and, as you no doubt know, they’ve got one of your steoris on their blog at the moment. Ignoring the questionable relevance of a website that focuses on sex/fetishes being featured in (what is supposed to be) a technology blog, I gave it a read and decided to visit your website to see what’s what. I feel that since I’ve been conned by Gizmodo into thinking that your content would be of interest to me, that I have earned the right to appraise your work. The content on your website is not good. I’ve spent some time reading up to page 13, and I’ve found very little quality material, unless anyone considers images with some man’s tiny penis in an ant’s nest good viewing. I can see that you’re desperate for attention, and the tone of most of your content mirrors a lot of the insecure whining you find on some of the shadier pages of Reddit. I don’t know how you’ve managed to coax Gizmodo into promoting you, but you obviously have your foot in the door of Gawker. Nobody will be recommending this site to others out of genuine delight.

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