Lady Porn Day

In case you are not aware, it’s Lady Porn Day on the internet. LPD is a blogosphere wide project organized by a girl called Rachel from the blog Rabbit Write. Basically she’s hand picked lots of female bloggers that she likes and arranged for us to all blog about porn today, in order to encourage woman around the world to think about porn and masturbation freely and positively, even though it’s generally thought of as “taboo” or whatever. This is what Rachel said in her initial LPD email:

“It’s tough trying to explore porn as a girl. There just isn’t much lady-friendly stag. And, girls aren’t encouraged to talk to each other about porn, the same way we aren’t encouraged to talk to each other about masturbation. In girl-world, too often we expect our first orgasm to come from a partner. Then we expect our Sex-and-The-City approved hitachi-orgasms to come from our closed eyes. But porn is just another tool for our sexual growth.”

So, for my Lady Porn Day contribution I’ve compiled a selection of screen grabs I’ve taken of the porn I’ve been getting off to recently, along with a few of my favorite classic porn images. This way you can see what turns me on, maybe be turned on yourself, and also it just gave me an excuse to watch porn for the last three hours and think of it as “doing work.” See, we all win.

For me, porn is a visual fantasy. It’s fake. You shouldn’t compare your real life sex to the porn you watch, because porn is solely visual and has nothing to do with pre-existing relationships or love or feelings, and I’m sorry if it sounds cheesy but YES, real life sex should have something to do with feelings. But watching porn is fun because it’s a sexual escape–like I said, a fantasy. And what’s so cool about fantasies is that they are totally weird and fucked-up and irrational, and that’s OK! You’re allowed to fantasize about literally anything, even making out with your dad or getting sexy with a 7 year old, because fantasies are not real. (Although if you do fantasize about 7 year olds, maybe keep that only in your brain and refrain from Google searching child porn.) And your fantasies don’t have to be in synch with your actual real-life desires, either. Lots of the stuff I like to watch in porn I’m not actually into IRL. Like for instance I’m not that into anal sex, but I really like to watch anal sex porn because you get to see the girl get fucked and also look at her vagina at the same time, ya know? But that’s just one example. There are plenty more.

To give you a brief summary of what sort of porn I like, I normally search for 20-something girls with big boobs–I’m into things bouncing–being fucked in the ass or being fucked by multiple guys at once. Also I really like Faye Reagan and Sarah Stone, and POV is a fave of mine too. I’ve also been known to watch some weirdo experimental gay art porn from time to time. And I’m a big fan of the Destricted series, obvs.

A few things that immediately turn me off in porn are fake boobs, girls with gross trampy tattoos, girls who are clearly over-moaning, seeing straight mens’ faces, cheesy elevator music, and heterosexual kissing. UGH! Kissing is for real life, lovey dovey sex. Porn is it’s own specific sex thing not based in reality and there need not be kissing! Literally, any form of kissing in porn and I instantly lose my boner. However for some reason guy-on-guy kissing and girl-on-girl kissing I can stand. I don’t know why, that’s just the way it is, and I don’t have to explain it because it’s a fantasy and like I said before, fantasies are irrational. So there.

Behold:














You can check out some of the other stuff written for Lady Porn Day through Rachel’s blog HERE.

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19 Responses to Lady Porn Day

  1. yowza says:

    Whoa, you do like big boobs.

  2. hello says:

    I wanna watch your porncollection! where can i find the clips you took the screendumps from?

  3. sweeney says:

    I just came, thanks.

  4. elk says:

    as i straight female that regularly masturbates to girl on girl action, i love this.

  5. Cinnamon says:

    straight female here and OMFG YOU CAN'T JUST PUT STUFF LIKE THAT UP WITHOUT LINKS… arrrrgggghhhhhhhhh!!!Fortunately some of them have recognizable interfaces, so that narrows it down to trying to find an orgasm in a haystack instead having to search the whole web… hrrm, are there sites that will identify a picture if it appears elsewhere on the net? I wonder if any do the same for video? I'm off to find out!

  6. SLUTEVER says:

    They are all from either youjizz.com (my fave) , redtube or xtube. I lost the links, sorry!

  7. Ron says:

    ditto on the gross tatoos.

  8. Louise says:

    haha.. alright.. I happened to stumble upon your blog in a weird chain of events involving stalking random peoples blogs that led to lady porn and kind of old feminists and their rather old lady parts then other random peoples blogs to stalk.. and then.. there was you( and a light shines down from he heavens and here comes a tiny naked baby with arrows and a penis) haha.. and so now I am pretty much going back in time and stalking your blog.. in its entirety. Yes, yes I am and I am proud to admit it. You sucessfully make me laugh and wish I didn't have my father and his friends somehow gettting a link to my own blog and reading it all the time so that I could actually talk about things the way you do. Well anyway, Bravo Karley!

  9. elisa says:

    uh,I agree, you can't put that shit up without SOME kind of clues as to what they are called…specs the pretty boy on other pretty boy make out ones.I'm really into james deen…but besides that…I have yet to find the perfect porn, plus, once I watch it I'm kinda done.sigh.

  10. SLUTEVER says:

    For the gay/art ones seach "Otto Or Up With Dead People" and the Destrcted series.

  11. P says:

    Like many of the above posters, I'm both female and heteronormative, but the girl in the third screengrab down is perfect. I think there's always something thrilling about seeing a really conventionally beautiful woman appear in pornography – a girl without rubbery, watermelon tits, I mean, and without the muddy-coloured spray-tan and bleached hair – because it feels more illicit, somehow.In terms of things that I can't stand? Long, acrylic nails. I always think that any woman who has those things doesn't spend enough time with her fingers in enough orifices.

  12. Natalia says:

    Where does the 17th image come from?

  13. Dulcie says:

    Pornography is, in its very nature, a performance and an illusion. Do you not think women, who have until recently been denied recognition of even having a sexuality, deserve a little better than to be represented – once again – through patriarchal eyes? I would argue that pornography eclipses female sexuality and presents it, once again, negatively. 'Cum sluts' are 'pounded', 'teen whores' are 'brutalised' and yet some women, desperate to aspire to a recognition of our sexulaity 'equal' to man's, consume pornography without question. They rip out our pubic hair to compete with the 'sexy' figures they see on screen and do not question their haste to emulate the virginal pre-teens the fantasy evokes. They conform to every element of commercial male fantasy in order to stake claim to their own 'liberation.' They suppress their ethical qualms over the capitalist colonisation of the body so as to maintain their enjoyment of the pormography. They are groomed, as men are, to enjoy prostitution with a clear conscience. Their perception of sex and desire are irrecoverably distorted. They no longer wonder whether pornography provides them with a response to their fantasies or whether they respond to the fantasies pornography provides them with. They become both abuser and abused, consumer and consumed with capital as the only winner. When did people become oblivious to their exploiation? And why are women, of all people, arguing for 'a positive approach to pornography'? It's actually ludicrous. Interrogate your false consciousness once in a while!

  14. Zev says:

    A comment that lists all of the historical ills of pornography and then asks "why are women, of all people, arguing for 'a positive approach to pornography'?" sort of answers its own question, doesn't it?Things change. Things are changing. There are more women producing and directing porn, their way, than ever before. Nowadays any idiot with a camera and an adventurous friend can produce porn, so the good stuff is lost in a tidal wave of swill. But it *IS* there, and that is precisely why it is important for something like Lady Porn Day to exist – anyone with a camera can film porn, but anyone with a computer can leave the typical porn site for greener pastures and they can use that same computer to raise a flag and yell "over here, check this out".I was just reading a conversation with Stoya, a 'hot item' in the porn world, and she was nothing like I had expected. When she's headed for the red carpet of an awards show, the first thing she does is sew an awesome new outfit for the occasion. She gets into arguments with directors over the sexiness of arm-pit hair and bemoans the fact that in LA if you go to a waxing place for 'a little trim' you often walk out with a lot less hair than you had asked them to leave. She is more 'liberated' than my bra-burning mother, more aware of the 'issues' than most women's studies majors, yet decides to work in porn. Clearly the old definitions don't cover all of the options anymore.A lot of women like the work of Camille Crimson for either enjoyment or instruction. Others think that her focus on 'giving' oral sex is degrading. But she is a kind and creative woman making movies with her partner and she is nobody's victim. (The few friends I have that dislike her work also happen to be the few friends I have who believe that sex is something men 'do to' women, and their sex lives reflect this fact – to the dissatisfaction of everyone involved, and everyone who hears about it later.) Camille isn't being used, nothing's being 'done to' her, she's not even really 'giving' anything up… she is *sharing* a loving experience with her partner, and it turns them both on to film themselves. I wish EVERYONE had it so good. If you don't, grab your partner and head (no pun intended) over to her site and get started.As has always been the case, human sexuality covers a broad spectrum. Any bad thing you can think of, you will find. So maybe stop looking for bad things? (And inadvertently giving their sites more ad money.) Make your own choices about this stuff, don't just accept old definitions, that is the true victimization. You can even make the decision to reject porn entirely – but it's your decision. Just like it's the decision of others to find and enjoy healthy porn. There is room enough for both viewpoints in the world… and many more, as well, something for everybody. This is a good thing.

  15. Zev says:

    A comment that lists all of the historical ills of pornography and then asks "why are women, of all people, arguing for 'a positive approach to pornography'?" sort of answers its own question, doesn't it?Things change. Things are changing. There are more women producing and directing porn, their way, than ever before. Nowadays any idiot with a camera and an adventurous friend can produce porn, so the good stuff is lost in a tidal wave of swill. But it *IS* there, and that is precisely why it is important for something like Lady Porn Day to exist – anyone with a camera can film porn, but anyone with a computer can leave the typical porn site for greener pastures and they can use that same computer to raise a flag and yell "over here, check this out".I was just reading a conversation with Stoya, a 'hot item' in the porn world, and she was nothing like I had expected. When she's headed for the red carpet of an awards show, the first thing she does is sew an awesome new outfit for the occasion. She gets into arguments with directors over the sexiness of arm-pit hair and bemoans the fact that in LA if you go to a waxing place for 'a little trim' you often walk out with a lot less hair than you had asked them to leave. She is more 'liberated' than my bra-burning mother, more aware of the 'issues' than most women's studies majors, yet decides to work in porn. Clearly the old definitions don't cover all of the options anymore.A lot of women like the work of Camille Crimson for either enjoyment or instruction. Others think that her focus on 'giving' oral sex is degrading. But she is a kind and creative woman making movies with her partner and she is nobody's victim. (The few friends I have that dislike her work also happen to be the few friends I have who believe that sex is something men 'do to' women, and their sex lives reflect this fact – to the dissatisfaction of everyone involved, and everyone who hears about it later.) Camille isn't being used, nothing's being 'done to' her, she's not even really 'giving' anything up… she is *sharing* a loving experience with her partner, and it turns them both on to film themselves. I wish EVERYONE had it so good. If you don't, grab your partner and head (no pun intended) over to her site and get started.As has always been the case, human sexuality covers a broad spectrum. Any bad thing you can think of, you will find. So maybe stop looking for bad things? (And inadvertently giving their sites more ad money.) Make your own choices about this stuff, don't just accept old definitions, that is the true victimization. You can even make the decision to reject porn entirely – but it's your decision. Just like it's the decision of others to find and enjoy healthy porn. There is room enough for both viewpoints in the world… and many more, as well, something for everybody. This is a good thing.

  16. swan says:

    right on

  17. Eric says:

    As a guy who knows quite a few girls, I don't know ANY who like the porn you do, or who even admit liking any porn at all. Except this one girl I met once; we were discussing computers, and I was going to tell her how to burn DVDs — but she already knew. I asked her why she knew (she wasn't the type), and she said it was because she loved BDSM porn, and copied it. But that's one girl out of dozens upon dozens. Where are you girls and your voices!?

  18. no says:

    @eric WTF? most girls, just like most boys, like porn. you're delusional.

  19. Eric says:

    I'm delusional? If most girls like porn, the same way guys do, then why is there a Lady Porn Day in the first place?!?

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