Female sexuality is not only complex—it’s a tug-of-war between arousal and revulsion (sounds cool, right?). Matthew Sanders explores this dichotomy, specifically in the music of girl-powered metal bands Vastum and Couch Slut.
Dear Slutever, I’m an 18-year-old girl, and I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 13 months now. This is the first serious relationship I’ve been in. However, my friend said he wanted to give me an experience with a guy, so we planned to have sex. I was hesitant, but I went with it. However now I have a lot of regret because when I told my girlfriend what happened she was really mad at me, of course,…
In conversation with Big Sis, the sex-positive feminist cartoonist whose drawings will make you feel less tragic about your sex life. By Kristen Cochrane.
In the new Breathless for Vogue, I talked with glam musician Nomi Ruiz and vlogger A Girl For All Seasons about the delicate subject of pleasure for trans woman–a subject some feel has been left in the dark, and potentially stilted sex-ed in the trans community. Read HERE :)
Often, when we point out ways in which we are marginalized or oppressed, we are told that we’re being a “killjoy,” or that we’re “lecturing people.” But how are we supposed to make change unless we point out things that are unfair and annoying? By Kristen Cochrane.
Three videos of the god that is Fran Lebowitz spilling her wisdom on being gay, having kids (or not), and making art that will surely cure your hangover.
Over the past century, countless films have featured the character of the “hooker with a heart of gold.” How come? Kristen Cochrane looks back at film history—specifically at Pretty Woman—to show why this theme is actually degrading to sex workers.
Which dating apps are best for who? And can you ask your gynecologist on a date? I discuss this and more on this week’s episode of New York magazine’s “Sex Lives” podcast, with host (and fellow slut) Maureen O’Connor. I also rant about the insufferable elitism (and stealth racism) of Raya; what to drink before peeing in someone’s mouth; and “IRL catfishing.” Listen here. pic by Ryan Lowry
An essay about writing from home, and my obsession with the work rituals of other writers. By Karley Sciortino.
Raya is an exclusive dating app for creative people. The app suggests that its users are somehow better or cooler than the people on Tinder… but why do we assume that exclusivity automatically makes something better? Read my latest Breathless for Vogue HERE :)