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Sex + Love Advice, Sexy Videos

A Light Intro to BDSM

August 11, 2015
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Want to add some light, consensual violence into your sex life? Look no further. This cute and informative video, by Lessa Millet and Kaye Blegvad, is the perfect intro guide to the world of BDSM. Also, it’s pretty safe for work, because it’s all animation :)

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Rants, Feelings & Opinions

The World’s Sexiest Dungeons

January 19, 2015
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Photo by Susan Meiselas Ever wondered what a real, professional BDSM dungeon looks like? Well, from personal experience, I can say that some are very elegant and ornate, while others are far trashier, and tend to be located in unassuming office buildings in gross areas of midtown, on a floor just above, like, a pottery class, and just below an insurance company. Random. Generally, what most professional, “for-hire” dungeons offer is a selection of rooms, each decorated to create a different mood,…

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Interviews, Sexy Videos

People Who Just Had Sex: A Domme and her BF

July 22, 2014

I’m hosting the new season of VICE’s series People Who Just Had Sex, yay! If you’re unfamiliar with the series, the idea is simple–we go to people’s houses and talk to them before they fuck, wait around while they fuck, and then interview them again after they fuck. In this episode we meet Samantha and Thomas–they’ve been dating since 2009, she’s a dominatrix, and they are both incredibly hot. Enjoy! 

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Rants, Feelings & Opinions

An Intimidating Interior

February 22, 2014

Photo by Helmut Newton I ask the dominatrix if she ever brings the men she dates back to her apartment. “Here? Oh god, no,” she says. “I mean, just look at the place. I couldn’t. Any man in his right mind would run screaming.” The dominatrix, Mistress Dee, stands with her back arched in a pair of PVC heels, thigh high stockings and a black latex mini dress. Pretty standard attire. She’s petite with giant boobs (real), black curls and…

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Interviews

Richardson Radio

November 30, 2013

Me and Andrew Richardson <3 Richardson mag, everyone’s favorite/the only academic sex magazine, now has its own radio show on know-wave radio, yay! As you can imagine, the show is very smart and sexy, with lots of dirty sex talking, paired with some intellectual rants, inspired ideas, and the occasional segment of great/dark/holy music. I was very honored to be asked as a guest on the show a couple of times over the past month, (as you may already know…

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Interviews

Talking Domination on Gunwash

August 25, 2013

A few days ago, I was a guest on Gunwash, a trippy radio show that records from the radio station in Roberta’s restaurant in Brooklyn. (I didn’t even know there was a radio station inside Roberta’s??? Fascinating.) The topic of conversation was “Dominatrixes”–what a Domme does, what subs want, etc.–and there was also a lot of talk about the host Aaron’s own personal relationship problems. Lol. It wasn’t the most erudite conversation of all time, given that everyone in the…

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Vogue Column

Vogue, and Whether or Not to be Afraid of the Internet

May 14, 2013

  I originally wrote this article for Vogue (glamorous).  We live in a time when you can be fired for tweeting mean things about your boss, and you can get arrested for admitting on Facebook to driving drunk. A quick scroll through someone’s Instagram determines whether or not you should sleep with him or her. Social media has made it nearly impossible to separate our personal and professional lives, and like it or not, each of us is our own…

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Rants, Feelings & Opinions

gross but not boring

December 18, 2012

Pic by Nobuyoshi Araki Working as a Dominatrix, over time one becomes–how should I put it?–desensitized to one’s surroundings. This is nothing out of the ordinary. It’s easy to imagine that a neuroscientist, at the beginnings of his career, might find it difficult to scissor the head off of an innocent little mouse, but that eventually this would become second nature. Basically, what was once thought to be horrific, even evil, can in time become totally NBD—the sort of thing…

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