Sex, Regret and Gender

I was on Huff Post live today, talking on a panel about how gender affects sexual regret. And this time I wasn’t just a floating head on a screen, but was actually IRL in the studio! Glamorous!

According to a new study, men and women have very different regrets when it comes to their sexual history. Not too surprising, I suppose. The study found that while men tended to regret the sexual adventures they hadn’t pursued, female participants expressed regret over the things they had done.

The most common regrets for women were:
1. Losing their virginity to the wrong partner (24 percent of respondents)
2. Cheating on a present or past partner (23 percent)
3. Moving too fast sexually (20 percent)

The most common regrets for men were entirely different:
1. Failing to make a move on a prospective sexual partner (27 percent of respondents)
2. Not being more sexually adventurous in their youth (23 percent)
3. Not being more sexually adventurous when single (19 percent)

Read more about the study HERE, and watch the 15 minute video above to see our discussion about it. Also on the panel were Eric Barry, creator of the ‘Full Disclosure’ Sex Podcast; Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller, social psychologist at Harvard University; and Rachel Klechevsky, a sex and relationship therapist.



5 Replies to “Sex, Regret and Gender”

  1. i think the results of the survey speak more to the fact that women almost never go after the guy that they want in a direct way. 1) Because facing rejection is scary and 2) They can get laid anytime they want (if they wanted to) because guys approach them.
    If i was a woman i would do the same shit. Rejection is horrible/scary. But any guy that wants to have sex more than a handful of times in his life HAS TO DO THIS. A lot of women i talk too say they wouldnt date a guy who hasnt ‘got the guts’ to go after them so its essentially required if a guy wants a healthy love life. Unfortunately this kind of scenario means women often make the passive/ less satisfying choice of sleeping with just the guys make a move on them.

    1. @lol

      Very true! I was sort of trying to get at something similar when I was talking about the aggressor vs. the desired, but you’re spot on about the “passive/ less satisfying choice” !

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