Dear Slutever: I’ve done the whole fuck buddies thing, I’ve had casual hookups, I’ve tried celibacy. But all along I’ve wanted a serious, monogamous relationship and I’ve settled for these other things because I couldn’t get what I really wanted. But not one guy I’ve liked has ever stuck around past a few dates. What am I doing wrong?
An emergency kit for anyone going through a breakup, from comically tragic essays on heartbreak, to an incredible This American life on breakups, and how they turn you into a walking cliche of feelings. By Karley Sciortino.
While there is no nice way to dump someone, there are certainly unnecessarily horrific ways. My latest Breathless column details some particularly sadistic breakups :)
After a break-up, should we give ourselves a break for being desperate, drunk and delusional? In other words, are rebounds chill or nah? Read my latest Breathless column for Vogue magazine HERE :) – Karley Sciortino
Sometimes it’s hard to tell if you truly love someone, or if you’re just in love with the idea of being in love. Emily Bahr-de Stefano reflects on being a love addict, wtf love addiction is, and the specific tragicness of being dumped via Skype. Image by Petra Collins.
Are you suffering through a Valentine’s Day hangover? Feeling like a tragic loser, waiting for sexts that never come? Don’t worry—here’s a guide to using Roland Barthes’ famous book, A Lover’s Discourse, as literary electroshock therapy for your love life. By Kristen Cochrane.
April Eileen Henry’s Instagram account, Texts From Your Existentialist, makes memes of our collective suffering. Here, April and Kristen Cochrane talk bad breakups, Godard, and being held hostage by human consciousness.
What happens when friendship and flirtation conflict? On this week’s New York magazine’s Sex Lives podcast, two pairs of female BFFs discuss #GIRLCODE and whether it’s OK to fuck your friend’s ex. I (Karley) was really excited to be invited on the podcast with my BFF, writer Jenna Sauers. We joined New York Magazine sex columnist Maureen O’Connor and her bestie, Juliet Thompson, for a discussion of the men and women we’ve shared with friends and beds with — and the fallout. Listen below, or find it here :)…
Which dating apps are best for who? And can you ask your gynecologist on a date? I discuss this and more on this week’s episode of New York magazine’s “Sex Lives” podcast, with host (and fellow slut) Maureen O’Connor. I also rant about the insufferable elitism (and stealth racism) of Raya; what to drink before peeing in someone’s mouth; and “IRL catfishing.” Listen here. pic by Ryan Lowry
Allegedly NYC is the only podcast that I regularly cry laughing while listening to. So obviously, I’m so excited to be a guest on it!