How to Tinder Your Way Out of Your Social Scene

I’m single now—YOLO! Rather than dipping into the same pool of dudes and dudettes from my social scene, I’ve been Tindering up a storm. I’ve realized: using dating apps to date outside of your network has a lot of surprising benefits… it can sort of be like anthropology-lite :) Read about my recent hot dates and dating disasters in my newest Breathless column for Vogue magazine HERE :)

Masturbation Report: Stats on Self-Love

Words: Karley Sciortino / Photo: Ellen von Unwerth /

Did you know that May is National Masturbation Month? Yeah, it’s random, and I don’t really understand the point (isn’t every month masturbation month?), but let’s just go with it. In celebration of self-love, the sex toy brand We Vibe did their first ever national masturbation report. They talked to 600 men and women across the United states, ranging from age 20-70, identifying as single, in a relationship or married, and the stats and insights they founds are pretty interesting. Here goes…  Continue reading “Masturbation Report: Stats on Self-Love”

Sexual Enlightenment, a Bathtub, and my Mother

words by Ella W / image by Petra Collins /

If you didn’t already know, May is national masturbation month! Yay! (lol?) Recently, a Slutever reader sent me this beautiful personal essay about learning to masturbate, and her mother—a classic combo! In honor of masturbation month, I want to share this essay with you, which I’m sure any girl who spent too much time in the bathtub as a teenager can relate to. You know what I mean.

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Vital Information: 15 Surprising Facts about SEX

By Karley Sciortino /

Knowing facts is good, because it gives you something to say to people. Also, studies show that being knowledgable about sex makes you 67% more bangable. (J/K, I made that up, but I’m sure it’s probably true-ish.) Below are 15 real, weird, cute, scary and amazing facts about sex that I learned on the internet recently!

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13 Of The Funniest Things Ever Said About Self-Love

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Historically, masturbation has gotten a pretty bad rap. It’s been said that jerking-off can cause blindness, will make you impotent or infertile, can lead to mental illness, or, arguably the worst of them all, will result in you burning in eternal hellfire. However, that hasn’t seemed to deter most of you. I personally have never touched myself, so I’m off the hook no matter what happens, unlike you perverts. Below are 13 of the best things ever said about masturbation.

1. “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” — Truman Capote

2. “You cannot blame porn. When I was young, I used to masturbate to Gilligan’s Island.” — Ron Jeremy, Twitter

3. “Don’t knock masturbation. It’s sex with someone I love.” — Woody Allen, Annie Hall

4. “Even if times are tough and you’re enduring a terrible heartache, it’s important to focus your anger on a vibrator, not another person.” ― Chelsea Handler, My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands

5. “I have masturbated myself out of serious problems in my life. The phone doesn’t pick up because I’m masturbating. And I have excused myself at the oddest times so as to not make mistakes. If Tiger Woods only knew when to jerk off. It has a true market value, like gold bullion. First of all, I don’t jerk off because I’m horny. I’m sort of half-chick. It’s like District 9. I can fire alien weapons. I can insert a tampon. No, I do it because I want to take a brain bath. It’s like a hot whirlpool for my brain, in a brain space that is 100 percent agreeable with itself.” — John Mayer, interviewed in Rolling Stone

6. “My first time I jacked off, I thought I’d invented it. I looked down at my sloppy handful of junk and thought, This is going to make me rich.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Choke

7. “Among all types of sexual activity, masturbation is, however, the one in which the female most frequently reaches orgasm.” — Alfred Charles Kinsey, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female

8. “We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation.” — Lily Tomlin

9. “It’s easy, fun, and no one gets hurt.” – Louis C.K.

10. “Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” — Thomas Szasz (fellow of the American Psychiatric Association)

11. “I jerk off inside books and give life to words, leaving concepts stuck together you probably never heard.” — Immortal Technique, rapper

12. “If masturbation’s a crime, I’d be on death row.” — Gilbert Gottfried

13. Jackie Treehorn: “Interactive erotic software. The wave of the future, Dude. One hundred percent electronic!”

The Dude: “Yeah, well, I still jerk off manually.”
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Celebratory Masturbation

May was national masturbation month. If, unlike me, your Facebook friends aren’t almost exclusively feminist bloggers and people who make vagina-based art, your FB feed may not have informed you of that important fact. In celebration, my new article for VICE lists some of my favorite facts and musings on the subject. Read it HERE :)