Which dating apps are best for who? And can you ask your gynecologist on a date? I discuss this and more on this week’s episode of New York magazine’s “Sex Lives” podcast, with host (and fellow slut) Maureen O’Connor. I also rant about the insufferable elitism (and stealth racism) of Raya; what to drink before peeing in someone’s mouth; and “IRL catfishing.” Listen here.
Millennials have sex to assess if we want to get to know someone, not the other way around… so what happens when someone you’re dating makes you wait to have sex? I wrote an embarrassing personal essay about it for my latest Breathless for Vogue. – Karley Sciortino
LIFE GOALS: I visited Stoya (one of my heroes!) at her Brooklyn home and had an interesting an intimate conversation about sex and dating… and porn and money and open-relationships and all the good stuff, basically. The interview can be read HERE on Amuse :) By Karley Sciortino. All photos by Tim Barber.
I wrote an essay for the current issue of Purple Magazine about Bimbo Feminism and femininity as parody. P.S. Bimbo Feminism is officially my favorite phrase. xo KarleyContinue reading “Bimbo Feminism: A Tale of Identity”
I’m like stalker-grade obsessed with Amy Schumer. I’m pretty sure I’ve watched every clip that exists of her online, even the awkward foreign TV appearances that are dubbed over in Chinese so I can’t even hear what’s going on. My latest Breathless column for Vogue is about why she’s an incredible person and feminist, and why being a radical slut is just generally a bad bitch move. Read it HERE :)
I love getting recommendations about things to watch, read, listen to and look at from my friends and the people I respect. There’s just so much content in the world (aka on the internet) these days, and it can get so overwhelming that rather than consuming anything worthwhile, we just end up staring at Instagram instead. This is why a little guidance is often helpful. So, even thought you didn’t ask, I’m offering myself as your internet guide for the day. (You’re welcome.) Below are five things that I’ve seen/listened to/read in the past week that either made me smile, made me smarter, or blew mind :)
1. Gore Vidal on 60 Minutes
My spirit animal Gore Vidal–the incomparable writer, essayist, playwright and critic–was the master of being highly intelligent, entertaining, funny and provocative all at the same time. If only everyone (or at least me) had those skillz! I recently watched a profile of Vidal from a 1975 episode of the TV show “60 Minutes.” The piece follows him to parties in Italy, on an American TV circuit, and sees him talking about everything from sex to politics to celebrity to the benefits of being a slut. It’s only 16 minutes long, and you can watch it HERE. (And if that’s not enough, there’s a full length documentary about him on Netflix now that I also recommend!)
2. Bret Easton Ellis talks with Rose McGowan
If you haven’t listened to the Bret Easton Ellis podcast, then you should, because it’s incredible. It’s predominantly Bret having conversations with interesting/indie filmmakers and artists about film and culture, and practically everything that comes out of Bret’s mouth makes my brain and heart flutter. (He also has a very sexy voice.) So many of the podcasts are good that I was having trouble choosing one to recommend, but last night I listened to his chat with the actress-turned-director Rose McGowan, and it was so interesting. Admittedly, I was not a huge fan of McGowan’s before listening to the podcast, but I’ve been converted. In their chat, the two largely discuss gender politics (both in film and in real life), dynamic female characters in film (and the lack thereof), the male gaze, feminism, and my fave film of late, Nymphomaniac. Listen to the podcast below.
3. Rebecca Solnit on “mansplaining”
By now you’ve probably heard the term “mansplaining”–meaning, when a man feels the need to explain something to a woman in a patronizing and condescending way, even when it’s clear that the woman knows more about the topic under discussion than the man. (We’ve all been there!) Well, the now famous essay that subsequently spawned the term mansplaining was written by the wonderful Rebecca Solnit, and it’s as hysterically funny as it is enlightening. Read itHERE.
4. High Maintenance
Is High Maintenance everyone’s favorite show? It’s mine! If you’ve been living under a rock, High Maintenance is a comedy web show about a weed dealer, and each episode is a hysterically precise character study of a different New York person, or group of people. Below is my favorite episode. It makes me laugh and cry, and is a total cute alert! (p.s. because of the show’s atypical format, it’s OK to not watch the episodes chronologically.)
5. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie on why we should all be feminists
Ya know how in the Beyonce song “Flawless” there’s that part where she samples a woman talking about feminism, which starts with “We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller…” and ends with “Feminist: the person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes”? Well, that sample is taken from a Ted talk titled titled “We should all be feminists,” given by one of the most amazing women in the world, the renowned Nigerian novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Above is her speech from which the song samples in its entirety. It’s illuminating, entertaining, funny and deeply personal. I really recommend that everyone watch this, especially boys–feminism is not a girl issue, it’s an everyone issue!
If you ask me, the key to a great Halloween costume is looking hot without looking like a desperate skank–it’s a fine line. A trick I’ve picked up over the years is: if you dress like a straight-up slut–i.e. like a sexy cat, a sexy nun, or Malibu Barbie–you just come across like a trashy basic-bitch. However, if you dress like a slut from a movie, you seem cultured and self-aware, while also “accidentally” looking totally fuckable. Success! Below is a list of some of my favorite film hotties, whose wardrobes make both provocative and functional Halloween wear.
Patricia Arquette in True Romance:
Trailer trash has never looked as good, or as fun, as on Patricia Arquette in her role as a call girl in one of my favorite movies of all time, True Romance.
Laura Dern in Wild at Heart:
The perfect excuse to wear skimpy body-con, a bright red lip and giant 80s hair.
Lolita:
It’s hard to pull of frilly, off-the-shoulder two-pieces and baby braids in real life, so you might as well seize the opportunity.
Eva Green in The Dreamers as Venus de Milo:
For the more adventurous party goer…
Pam Grier in Jackie Brown:
A gun is the prefect accessory for a stewardess uniform.
Nastassja Kinski in Paris, Texas:
The most beautiful stripper in the most beautiful sweater.
One of the Heathers, from Heathers
Sexy, sophisticated and evil…
Jodie Foster in Taxi Driver:
The most iconic hooker look of all time.
Regina George in Mean Girls
A potentially obvious, yet classically good option.
Catherine Deneuve in Belle de Jour:
No prostitute has never looked as classy or as chic as Catherine Deneuve in Belle de Jour, in her wardrobe designed by YSL. Fuck Halloween–if I could look like this every day, I would.